I found the lack of any emotional support from our medical people during my breast cancer journey very disappointing. However, that's how I found the Mayo site and it's been a real blessing and help. To finally find someone who acknowledges that having cancer and now being a cancer caregiver is difficult and challenging has been uplifting. I tend to both act and be strong but underneath that is great fear and sadness that I'm sure is universal. When you act like you have it 'all together' doctors tend to think you do and don't offer much hand holding. As my husband and I face his cancer we have found that our world view on illness and death are somewhat different. I think it's important that my husband has the chance to talk to a counselor without me and then for me to talk with the counselor without the interference/noise of years of married life, I hope I can see my husband's point of view better and be better able to help him face this diagnosis. I'm a fix it, get it done, do whatever it takes kind of person with illness and he's a quality of life guy who is much more accepting of death........this will help us work this out and I think we won't feel so alone and abandoned. My husband's difficult diagnosis of Cancer of Unknown Primary (which persists after 18 months) has been a whole new kind of stress.