@neh213. You might try a urogynecologist, it seems they deal with fecal incontinence as well as urinary incontinence. I presume proctologists also must deal with this but I think they may be more apt to suggest surgery, which for me would be an absolute last resort option. I could be wrong on that though, maybe they too would you refer to a specialized physical therapist.
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neh, I have so much to write to you, can I ask you if you have any specific diagnosis at this time? Also, you say "make it to the bathroom" - what happens when you get there? i.e. are you having stools, just not sensing the urge in time, are you having diarrhea? Or are you having more chronic leaking of stool? LOL, it always makes me laugh how in these GI forums, we can talk about things like this without thinking twice. I think most people are uncomfortable talking about these "bathroom issues", so don't, and suffer in silence.