@aliali I have never been a perfectionist but know people who are . It is a tough road in life . All I can tell you is you have to love who you are before you can love others or please yourself then you can please others and Jesus wasn't a doormat so you shouldn't be either . Your still young but you should start to stand up for yourself. Please you Mom but your brothers are just that listen to them then decide if that is best for you. I may be giving you the wrong advice but for me it has worked in my psyche Self care is important for your psyche.