I am a 41 yr old Male.

I am supposed to have surgery this week for a tight bladder neck. I have had the issue for 7 years and my bladder is getting weaker.
I am very scared and not sure if it is the right decision. I have been on flowmax and it helps some. I am on two pills totaling .80.
I am 41 years old and had a qmax score of 6 without any meds and 12 with meds. The meds cause some side effects like eczema and some dizzyness, maybe even some back and side pain.

If anyone has an experience with having a BNI at 5 and 7 could you please share with me your experience>?
My BIGGEST fear is incontinence. I am 41 have two kids and a beautiful wife.

Did you get and form of Incontinence?
Did you get the dreaded Retro?
How long was your recovery time?
Would you share with me your outcome and if any complications?
Did you get the results you were looking for?
Would you do it again knowing what you know now?

Am I jumping the gun having this surgery or am I scared of things that are very unlikely?

I see some people have good flow after the surgery but then find out a few weeks later their slow flow comes back. Thank you for anything you can share.

Thank you,
Joel P