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Living in the present and actions to reduce anxiety
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Feb 11, 2020 | Replies (43)Comment receiving replies
@parus Like you, I struggle with the "what-if"s. It might be tied to my being on the autism spectrum, not sure, and my feelings that I need to be aware, to be prepared for anything that might come along. I am sure the defensiveness and hyper-vigilance has a root somewhere. You're right, it is energy-stealing.
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it is part of how we operate when we get a raw deal and or ripped off .we all do this program of would of or if only this person said this and i could have said this when I didn't have the words to say at the exact moment when I get bullied or hassled or dumped or sad. then the response is they should have said this and then it becomes a rolling internal argument .rathets up our levels of anxieties and ends up in a meltdown or crying. I have learned to deny by saying based on previous experience of doing this about people then discovering they hadn't cared or didn't give a rats arse if they had hurt me. Then turned around like a narcissist and denied saying it