I also want to add a couple of my thoughts about living in the present. I’m 75. In the past year I have lost 5 friends. I thought I was handling these life issues well but my anxiety attacks increased markedly over the past year. I often try to envision life without my wonderful husband, and I simply cannot. So there’s a simmering fear of that challenge. I do make every effort to be mindful of the present and practice gratefulness for our present good health and other blessings. Making a list of these assets has helped me. When I get “spooked” about the what-ifs, I read that list. It helps me to live in the present.