@emyliander Finding a urogynecologist can be a challenge. It's a relatively new specialty. I found one here in NH and she is supposed to be good, but the wait for an appointment was at least six months. I ended up going to Mass General for that too, that department there has three urogynecologists.
When I went to the physical therapist, primarily for UI, she said to not skip more than two days, it really sets you back. We went to NYC over the weekend to visit my daughter and I skipped at least 3 days with the getting ready to go and the settling in when we returned, maybe 4 days. I really did see a huge difference this week.
I am supposed to drink 80 – 100 ounces of non-caffeinated beverages a day to keep my kidneys happy so between that consumption and urinary incontinence I really go a lot, particularly at nighttime. I get up at least five times during the night. As morning approaches and I am sleeping less soundly, I am up every hour, but that, of course, is for UI, not fecal incontinence.