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Chronic UTI: How do you prevent them?
Women's Health | Last Active: Jul 12, 2019 | Replies (58)Comment receiving replies
Appointment yesterday resulted in another referral to another specialist. The tumor is an aggressive type of cancer. Now waiting on another specialist and appointment. @hopeful33250 Yes, this does cause flashbacks. Also unusual for a woman to have bladder cancer. Feeling like I am being offered to the slashers with no encouragement. They have left me feeling as good as dead and nothing more than a filthy woman. They would not be this cold with another man. I have always been treated lesser than. In a hard place and would rather just let the cancer do its thing rather than being treated like it seems I am being treated. Currently despondent. So much for being a supportive member. Hopefully there is something to be learned by someone.
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@parus oh, I’m so sorry about your news. On the bright side, there are female urologists! Please look for one. Becky
@parus I am sorry that you feel that your doctors have been less than caring. I agree with @becsbuddy, try to find a female urologist. A female would probably be much more caring and certainly not treat you in a lesser way. My husband had to recently get a new PCP and he chose a woman because he feels they are more caring and more thorough.
Please do not be despondent, and do not think about letting "the cancer do its thing". If there is a treatment you need to have faith that you will succeed in getting better.
Please let us know how things turn, and again, please look for another doctor, preferably a woman.
JK
Oh, @parus. I'm so sorry to hear that your appointment was so difficult! It sounds like it was difficult in more ways than one. Asking for a female doctor (be it an oncologist or urologist) is going to be important for you in order to weather this storm. I know that it is difficult to advocate for yourself but we are behind you and will cheer you on! We care for you a lot @parus!
Understanding how vulnerable and despondent you are right now. Please do not give up. It is so important you have doctor you trust and can relate to! When my husband had cancer we switched onocologists three times before we found doctor that not only searched for and treated his cancer in an aggressive and positive way, but also treated my husband and I with kindness and dignity. You deserve good care and kindness, and I pray you will get that!
Hi, @parus - wondering how things are going with your health? your spirits?
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I hear your pain and despondency, @parus. With you, and listening.