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We learn from each other. Yes I grew with behaviors that were self centered/ self serving. Dark thinking patterns. And I am a severe pessimist (that thing in the White House does not help) I have always being active and that helped a lot. Being outdoors with nature and / or critters helps a lot . I grew up with the woods in back of me and that helped me. I cannot get into positive mode because the future is bleak for me. I can have some positive moments with reading/ walking/ biking/ wandering drives weekends.
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@bookysue My mother was depressed most of her life, and at age 17 was placed in a sanitarium for some time. We were not aware as youngsters, that what we experienced was abnormal. Not until I was about 14 did it dawn on me something was amiss. My best guy friend's mother took me under her wing, to give me the guidance she felt a "present" mother would offer. My mother hater her for that. I moved out at 18 and never looked back. In the last 15 years [I am now 66] I have learned more about depression and mental illness, and the effects on family. Unfortunately, it is still a taboo subject for my siblings.My hat is off to you for being so brave; I can learn so much from you. Thank you.
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I so understand, @bookysue. Developing optimistic behaviors takes work, doesn't it? Sometimes the work is that of an active nature, including volunteer work, exercise, meditation, helping others, reading helpful literature. Sometimes the work is that of a restrictive nature, I have learned the value of using the remote control when the national news comes on, it is too dysfunctional for me. Sometimes it means avoiding some people who just don't value a healthy lifestyle.
So we all find a way to develop peace in a turbulent world with the memories of a dysfunctional past nearby.