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Hi Lisa .... yes, I've always been a black and white person .... things are either good or bad .... no middle. Well, this challenges us to find that area in the middle. Picture two circles and the area where they intersect. That's the middle .... the thoughtful part that challenges my either black and white thinking. A whole new concept for me. Yesterday we were doing mindfulness, and I realize that I cannot do multiple things at once, and still have mindfulness. For me, it's why I can't find my keys, my phone, etc. I just lay it down, not thinking where, and then because I didn't think when I did it ..... I can't find it and it starts that whole crazy search. We're getting it into more today. This is all new for me, but oh so very helpful.
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Hello @amberpep! My spouse has BPD, and he misplaces and loses important items all the time! So you're not the only person who loses keys, phones, etc.
I'm currently in counseling, and doing that 'deep work' too. It hurts, and is exhausting, but I need to do it if I'm going to make any progress in recovering from my mental sickness.
I have anxiety, and I'm learning that reframing concerns can reduce my anxiety. For example, I've been struggling with my weight, and ashamed of my body, my whole life. The popular 'body positivity' - loving my body - concept is too much of a mental leap for me, and it winds up my anxiety. Body neutrality, which removes the emotional values of love and hate and lowers the stakes, is something I can accept. Thinking of my body as a vehicle for my mind, and that it requires careful maintenance to function properly, is a step towards unconditional acceptance.
DBT works!