Hi Lisa, Giving up I meant, giving up in so may ways. Taking care of myself, I can not eat. My P.M. Dr. knows and Psychologist knows. My husband can only change for a day, 20 min. He wants me to ask him if I need help. I will NOT he likes to be asked! Rarely on his own. I must keep my pride and dignaty around him. He is not a communicator, never was. At time he will look at me with a blank stare if I try. I'm not as shy as I once was. I can't break the habit of saying to him "may I". "can I" I need to be more conscience of that! I wish I could hug all of you and give you the warmth and concern back to let you know I am here for you also.