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@marilyn2525

My story is as complicated as my getting diagnosed July 2018, after 20 years of steady weight gain ( average 5 a year )
After trying many diets and unable to exercise ( my husband of 20 years is a physician and very fit for 72 yrs old )
I went from 132 lbs to 206 in that twenty years. Our marriage was terrible by the time I filled out the paper work to hopefully become a patient at Mayo, I didn't tell anyone esp my husband for fear he would put a stop to it....after all I was not exercising and wouldn't ( couldn't ) even go for a walk. So why on earth would I waste the time of these good Doctors.
Well on my last day at Mayo, a lovely endocrinologist ( specialist in metabolism) listens to my story and symptoms. In short order, she called me back after discussing my symptoms with a fellow. Together they feel strongly that perhaps I have an insulinoma.
It was day five and my plane was leaving the next day ( Saturday ). I told the Dr I will come back for further test to prove their suspicions. Seven trips later two huge surgeries I'm a different person. Oh, after my first visit to Mayo just four days later I found out my husband had been having an affair with a psychologist at work.
I'm 65 at the time. So we haven't seen anyone yet....the surgeries were first and foremost on my mind, now I will deal with the next chapter in my life. I did see an attorney to get my affairs in order just days before the second surgery. My husband has professed that he is done with his emotional affair with this married woman and we have been sleeping in the same bed for the past three months. My weight was his excuse for the affair. I lost 35 lbs within a few weeks of the first surgery....I can walk all day, not just to the mail box. I just hosted a huge wedding at our home for my nephew days ago. I'm stronger and happier than I have been in years. I don't know what is next but, because someone finally listened to me I have options...I'm not down for the count.
Thank you Mayo Clinic for taking me as a patient ( not doubt for a simple nodule on my thyroid ).

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@marilyn2525 the emotional shock on top of all of the physical challenges is a lot to take. You sound like you are a very brave person. Sometimes it takes having someone to just listen to us and validate our concerns to give us the confidence we need to move forward in a positive manner. You have a lot going on and I admire you for not only dealing with it but for sharing your story. It will help others. It helped me today, so thank you.

A wonderful therapist I saw for grief counseling upon learning my husband had end stage kidney disease, told me something I hold to my heart every day: I CAN DO HARD THINGS.
He is now 2 years post kidney transplant, most days are wonderful, and I can do hard things. You GO, Girl💗