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My dad has a mass on bladder and kidney not functioning

Bladder Cancer | Last Active: Sep 29 9:34am | Replies (269)

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@formydad

Ugh! I am SO ridiculously frustrated and really wondering why doctors send people to the er to sit in lobby for hour on end. My mom and dad i know are not alone. But since his surgery they have been sitting in er’s for at least three days time lost. At least 5 trips or more. 🙁
Today was my dads ct. the radiologist told him he needs to get to er sees pockets of fluid or who knows- its not good. 🙄my dad was like um ok- so he called his doc who ordered ct he said yes you should go -we’ll call ahead and get tell your urologist informed too ct is being sent there now so dad left went home grabbed mom and went up to er that was at 4:15 today. Its 10:14. They are still in lobby- they put an iv thing in his arm and sat him back down in lobby. Meanwhile theres a pandemic.. with corono- dad has cancer and now whatevers going on. My mom has ongoing issues gerd- hiatal hernias- and copd. They are over 70 and shouldnt be sitting there for hours i want to ring a neck! Good news. They approved treatment but now doc thinks might be too close to spine n only kidney left with proton so might mix treatment. My question is hes been sitting waiting so long - have the spots changed? Gotten worse or better will they even check? 😥

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When i say spots i mean the cancer spots they found in biopsy months ago while cutting thru all the red tape for treatment.
I texted my dad and told him he should be calling his docs after hours line and ask him why hes still sitting in waiting room at 11pm when he said he’d call ahead!?? They have NO record of a call!!

@formydad I can totally sympathize with you and your parents. I too had one of those long ER waits very recently. My doctor sent me there for an ultrasound to rule out DVT in my leg and said he called ahead. They said in the ER that it was not possible! So there we waited for six hours, finally got out at 2:00 A.M. I too am over 70 and my husband is over 80.
Good question about the spots. Has he or you contacted his doctor to ask that question? His doctor is really the only person who can answer that question, and even if the spots have gotten worse, what is, is. At this point you can't turn back the clock. This is another area where I am in a similar position. My PCP dropped the ball on DEXA scans and I now have rather advanced osteoporosis. I'm pretty upset at him but I can't go back, only forward.
Just know, you are not alone at all in your frustrations.
JK