@formydad I might also suggest asking your dad if he has a medical power of attorney. Besides stating what his wishes are, it also names the person, or persons, who can make decisions if he cannot. Usually it is the spouse. Ask to have yourself added. Then the docs know that you’re part of the decision making team and/or want information. I did this with my parents. When dad needed surgery, my mom told the doctors to call me and discuss options. They always did. I was 2000 miles away. I could then discuss everything with my mom and siblings and put all the info into laymen’s terms. The unit’s social worker can probably help with all of this. You might also ask about a care conference with your parents and the whole team. Do you think this might work for you? Let me know what your parents think about this. You’re doing a great job!