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Suicide: Finding it hard to lose someone by suicide
Loss & Grief | Last Active: Aug 12 4:25pm | Replies (60)Comment receiving replies
I did all of the suggestions recommended by Survivors of suicide/alliance of hope organization. It was and still is vital to continue grief counseling and it is especially important to share with others who are survivors. The first thing I will say is that GUILT is what I deal with most. Because I'm his mother. I should have been able to stop him
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@georgette12 I lost my brother over 30 years ago to suicide. I know that my mother feels guilty as well. However, having been suicidal myself, I understood my brother. I have tried to explain to my mother many times that it was NOT her fault. When you are suicidal, unfortunately the last thing you want to do is speak to anyone. You are absolutely convinced that nothing will ever get better & that everyone would be better off without you. I'm not saying that it's a rational argument, but that is how it feels.
I’m so, so sorry for your lose. Only you know how it affected you. One thing I can say is no matter how we try no matter what we say we never truly know what’s in someone else’s head. We can ask a hundred questions but if THEY don’t want to share we can’t help them. All we can do is let them know that we’re available if needed there will be no judgement we will help them but most of all no matter what they are really, truest loved and that you care.
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I appreciate your sharing these feelings. I notice you use the phrase, "I should have been able to stop him." Wondering how realistic that really is. As adults, we each have a free will to act as we choose. Can we really impose our choices on others? (My answer to that question would be "no.")
Would others in our group like to respond to that as well?