@merpreb I don't know but have a suggestion Go into the bathroom close door start talking to yourself as sound hurts your ears conciously talk softer to yourself just thinking maybe will help don't know good luck

@merpreb Merry, I think this is a problem that time will solve as you find the level that he needs to be able to hear you without feeling like you are shouting to him. It must be tough though to have gotten used to speaking in a loud voice for years to now have to tone it down. Also, louder is not always better. Sometimes it's the clarity. That is my problem frequently but if I don't understand my husband he shouts. I feel like he is always shouting at me.
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Hi Merry, Your situation is a little different than mine: I had sudden hearing loss in one ear (which makes it surprisingly difficult to understand people) but wanted to encourage you re: your relationship. This does put a strain on relationships, both with spouse and others. Sometimes it's exhausting and I just want to "tune out" so to speak, but I know that isn't the right thing, either. My husband happened to meet someone else who had the same situation as me, and (you know how it goes, sometimes you just hear it better from a neutral party) after a long conversation with that person, he has been more understanding towards me. Or maybe I didn't verbalize it well. But maybe your talking with others will help you - and maybe him, too - understand better and not let it negatively impact your relationship. It is hard for both of you. I thin you just have to re-learn how to talk to him (volume), but if any consolation I guess it is also not easy to re-learn to "hear" with hearing aids. However if he puts them in/out at unexpected times, then he will need to own letting you know that 🙂 And you can let him know that you are not "yelling," you are talking loudly... different connotation! Good luck!