@margot69 well what I glean from your posts is that there solutions to problems, esp your transfer story. My husband has said he will make building a pen in the back yard a priority before he leaves and feels the dog can be there and that we can do doggy daycare a few days a week. Also glad to hear night sweats will level out, and I am hoping the Lexapro kicks in soon. Thank you so much for all of your thoughtful remarks, you are an angel and a blessing.