@yangedd I want to send my best and hugs to you with the impending anniversary of your mothers passing and her continuing journey on .I am Autistic I am coming up to my mums 15th anniversary of her passing when she fell down 2 flights of stairs and fractured her skull and aortic aneurysm my mums was 2 days after her birthday 15/2/04 .
I would like to send heaps of love and to say I understand , what has helped me on this day is to remember her beautiful ,unconditional love and wisdom and hugs and trying to being grateful for what she gave me which is life and existence. I always have an oil burner of lavender and franckinscence burning which helps me chill , I send lots of love in prayer and to go thru a period of gratefulness .thanking mum for stuff . I also recognize how hard this day is and always try and do nice stuff and honor her and go and visit her grave and say thanks there .listen to beautiful music which she loved gilbert and Sullivan mainly . I also collect her favorite flowers and have remedial massage . I try and be kind to myself and to be quiet and calm and to avoid what I call is the would of's should of's and if only .mainly because as an autie it increases my anxieties and depression and too much epinephrine flooding my amygdala .which will physically increase the anxieties and depression . I sometimes try and volunteer in mums charities and doing stuff to honor my mum. I also take my meds and mood stabilizer and or over acounter mild sedative or white tea or peppermint and or chamomile tea . try and think beautiful things and to let everything go over my head or pass me and not engage in or with anyone . make it a very special day in memeories of my mum .tis is what has helped me get through and pass my mums death .I had to witness her autopsy as an executor of her estate and explain to the police my whereabouts when mum died and the crap from my sisters about resolving her and settling her estates .because my sister hated me and wanted only mums monies and didn't care about my grief and hurt and just get on with the job