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Holiday Feelings: Are They Merry or Stressful?

Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Nov 9, 2022 | Replies (172)

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I am very stressed this holiday season . For. 1 I broke my back in July, we have hard a gentleman working on our master bathroom as the floor was rotted. He has taken 4 mo to do this he is so slow. Almost done though. I haven't been able to lay down an rest in my room since August. He has had a wet saw in my bedroom to cut tile for 1 week now .he covered the bed. But everything else has 1 inch of dust on it. I have to crawl into bed. Because there is no space. He has taken up my whole garage with his tools and junk. It's suppose to snow next week and we can't get the snowblower out. Can't. Get Cars in garage. On top of this I have to finish X-Men ma's shopping. No cookies for us this yeas. And my husband and I fight about this every night. Help

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@suerc I agree with Merry, no contractor should be doing this. He needs to be responsible to clean up his mess and right away, and you should not be trying to sleep in a room covered in construction dust. The dust might also have collected in the air ducts in your home which would then need cleaning. That is just bad for your health, and recovering from an injury is hard enough without a problem like this. This job should have been completed in a few weeks, not months, and he should have done his cutting outside of your home. If your contractor doesn't clean up his mess, you'll end up hiring someone for that too. Will your husband help clean up this mess? Is there a local church you can reach out to for help? Church groups sometimes do home repair projects for people in need and that might be a source of help. You could call a pastor or church leader and talk to them. If you reach out to a church, perhaps your husband would also get onboard. Are there neighbors who might help with the snow until the garage is usable again? Sometimes asking for help is the last thing we want to do, but it's OK. It seems much easier to want to help someone else in a situation like this than when it is our situation. If you need help beyond this, you might ask your doctor to recommend what you need. if no one is listening, that might support your cause, Try not to put extra pressure on yourself. Put your needs first as you are in recovery. I had a recovery from spine surgery and a month after that surgery I was at my mom's house for Christmas and I had to ask people to pitch in and help. I had to actually say "no" and that I can't do everything because I didn't have the strength and was still in pain with lifting restrictions and wearing a neck brace.

I can suggest you might want to get some good quality disposable doctor's masks to protect your lungs from the dust. I bought them online from Walmart ... 3M Earloop Procedure Face Masks, Blue, 50/bx 3M Model: 1820. The masks have >99% Bacterial Filtration Efficiency (BFE){1} and >95% 0.1 micron filtration efficiency which is comparable to HEPA filters. I bought these masks to help with my allergies/asthma and I sleep in them. With the ear loops rather than masks that tie, they are more comfortable. I also wear these when I'm exposed to things outside and they do help and are easy to carry in my pocket.