@debbraw- That's the point isn't it-to prioritize! I actually called off our usual celebrations for a few years because I couldn't seem to even do that. I have now learned that what I needed to do was not cancel but cut back and change things. I am very close with my sister and her family and she has been willing to adapt. So instead of me making a huge meal, etc for Christmas we go out, and this year we are going out on Christmas eve because our kids need to go back home. We have also cut back on gifts and enjoy the companionship much more instead of making gift giving, decorating and cooking a competition.
I think that we have all fallen into the commercial trap of holidays way too much. It's become too much for everyone I think.