@gingerw The think I have noticed is those I no longer want in my life. I could no longer be their beast of burden. I feel better by having made these decisions and my absence was likely not noticed. I now help those that are appreciative and I still do my secret elf thing as it helps me to place a smile on another’s face when they find a goody to have with their morning cuppa and paper. My grandson is coming again tomorrow!!! A big smile on my face. I am grateful.