Nancy (shorthshot) You do not need to explain anything to anyone if you don't want to. The battle you are in is bad enough to handle, without trying to explaining anything. I have two kinds of lung cancer... Not fun.. Drain one lung, and then try to stop the bleeding of the other one is stressful enough on one's sickie . Besides Most of the time no one cares what is going on with your illness. At least thats how I feel, Maybe it's my age. I will be 87 next week. Nancy