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This is not selfish! Everyone has to live with this in their own way. I talk a lot about different health things many of which I don’t have and my husband does not have. Mostly because I like to study the nuts and bolts of disease. Also because I like to be able to understand how it affects people. I try to be respectful of what people dont want to talk about. I have been going for years here and I still am lousy at small talk. Weather is just weather and we all watch the news. I love a real conversation and I love silliness. I don’t want “oh, poor you” and I don’t want people to do things for me. I want to try to figure it out on my own first.
I, for one, am glad you came to connect! Welcome to the journey, sometimes I think we are pretty darn lucky. We don’t take our days for granted.

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Nothing must be taken for granted. My life after a cancer diagnosis is teaching me this. I don’t intend to waste any time. I am not care free anymore. I have less patience and I tend to resent people I find “petty”. At work two co workers were talking one was complaining about her life she had a wedding to go to and was having wardrobe issues. I wanted to say, “You think you have problems, well I have scans coming up and I don’t know whether or not I will need to deal with cancer!” But they don’t know I have a cancer diagnosis and I was once care free. I need to deal with my own negativity. It isn’t anyone’s fault I got a cancer. I need to deal with it but I am not alone. Some days I feel less positive but I am working on being happy and grateful for what I have. I have my family, I have a good support system, and I am not alone! Also I am cancer free right now. I am grateful for that!