@jshdma- Good morning. I get what you are saying. A positive attitude, to me, does not mean that people are walking around on cloud 9 after a cancer diagnosis, or any illness, with ourselves or others. This is a mean, ill world right now and that's just not possible. What I think, after 22+ years of having cancer is after we get over the shock of an illness and have our treatments that we also get on with life-striving (even unconsciously) to just do things if possible. It doesn't irradiate fear or feelings of devastation, but they aren't always in our forefront. We go out to dinner, socialize, travel, have picnics--we get out of ourselves, even for short periods of time. Does this make sense?

I think we can make ourselves sicker by suppressing emotions like grief, anger, sadness, but to feel them fully, gain their messages, and then release them gracefully may be a lifelong learning. I try to do my gratitude journal every day. Even on the worst of chemo days, it helps me balance the crappiness and fear of the unknown with all the many things that are going right. If we have a human body it is a given that we will get sick, grow old (hopefully) and eventually die. What value can we create in the meantime?