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@merpreb I think about the arthritis commercial stating "it takes energy to make energy". True and also laughable on some levels. I find myself picking and choosing how to use my time. Mostly I don't feel like doing anything and typically I don't do much.
Grandson is in pre-K for around 3 hours 5 days a week. I usually have him once or twice a week. He has reached the stage of mostly hanging out. Independent as a hog on ice he is!!
I come to the connect community and see 99+ comments I am overwhelmed. Do the best I can.
My neck has been giving me fits again. The rhizotomy is to last up to a year. I pretty much stay in my woman's cave and don't care to be sociable. I don't feel depressed-more of a generalized malaise.
Maybe I need to try and come hang out here more-sometimes logging on is even too much of a hurdle.
Not particularly excited about warmer weather. Uh, does sound like some depression is lurking. Hadn't even thought of that as I always have some level of depression.
Your input is appreciated and definitely shed some light.
How are things with you? I recall you were absent for a while.
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Hi @parus,
It is good to hear from you again. Yes, we all get complacent at times. Forcing myself out of that attitude takes work and fortitude and sometimes I don't want to. However, when I consider the alternatives it doesn't look all that attractive either. Hang in there and let's encourage each other.
Sound like a plan?
@parus
Lucky you! No fair. One granddaughter lives around 2000 miles from me, and the other two little ones are around 450 miles away. The littlest one is 8 months old and I wish I could be there holding her or reading books to the 3 year old. Our son lives in Indianapolis. His girl is in 1st grade, and he sent us a video yesterday of his daughter being baptized.
Both my wife and I have said we'd be happy to be hermits. We like our country home with acres of space between us and the neighbors, and with lots of space for gardens. One neighbor leases our 8 acres of pasture for her horses and cows. It's convenient for them, just open the gate and the animals have room to run and graze. The two best things about the arrangement is that they take care of the irrigation all summer, and we get to see the cows and horses.
You know that I've gone through some deep depression, and one thing that I wanted was to isolate. I know that that's counter productive, but try telling that to a depressed person! I think that a balance of social interaction and having personal space is healthy. How that works out is different for each person.
I know what you mean about the 99 messages in the inbox. I tend to delete a lot of them because there isn't enough time in a day to jump into every conversation. Sometimes what I look for is certain people's names, @parus being one of them. I can't seem to help wanting to say thank you, or share something we have in common.
It's great to have activities we enjoy. You with your painting, me with my gardens and others with their travels or birds or pets. All good things that make us want to see what's around the corner tomorrow.
Have a good rest tonight.
Jim
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@parus- So good to hear from you! I think that you might have allowed yourself to become complacent and are very comfy there. I do this too and it's not a great place to be. Every time I've allowed myself to slip into this it gets harder and harder to get out of. That is why Connect is so great for me, and I've heard you say it too! It gets me out of myself and helping others helps in degrees that I can't count. I have to force myself to answer one question, do I want to live like this for the rest of my life? My answer is no. If something else doesn't kill me before my cancer I know that my killer is now living inside me. And it has the arrogance to think that it will beat me. It just might if I let it and to me that is suicide. I'm a crazy nosy person and I'm too damn stubborn to want to give in to it - I want to know everything and see everything and do everything that I can and help as many people that I can. I want to know if I have helped. I want to see if I've made a difference to just one person or more. I want to see my son get grayer than me and be able to kid him about it.
Force yourself to log in more! I know that GInger and I miss you! And I know how much you help people! I miss you because you have a great sense of humor and a lot of life experiences that I can relate to and others too. You have wonderful compassion and understanding of other people's struggles.
And as Ginger said, I'm here when you're ready, I hope that it's soon. You never have to say more than you want or reveal more than you have. All you have to do is come say hi! Hi @parus! How are you today? cyber hugs!!