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Doctor wants me to taper off meds; I don't understand why
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Nov 26, 2018 | Replies (20)Comment receiving replies
After some research, I found this forum, a safe place to connect with people, who are living with the same anxiety, panic, and depression I experience.on a daily basis.But this post left me in tears! @jakedduck1 unless you have actually experienced how debilitating these attacks are, you cannot say they that they are irrational, because they are to us.As for treatment, 2 years of seeing a Physiologist,the coping skills I was taught only helped me while in his office. I also did not mean to initiate a debate over who has had more traumatic experiences in their lifetime As to .my addiction to alcohol, I thought I dealt with many decades ago,and I now feel the same shame and guilt I feel now dealing with Clonazepam taper,. My prayer for you is that you take into consideration that if you have not gone through the paralyzing fear that those of us suffer, you give a great deal of thought before posting something that makes me feel more shame about .being drug addict,as well, because I cannot seem to cope! I apologize if this sounds harsh, but after letting this post sink into my brain for days, I have debated deleting this group!
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Hi @lorraine59, indeed you are right. Connect is a safe place to connect with people. I believe you know that and this allowed you to come back and let Jake and all of know how his message made you feel. Thank you for sharing how deeply hurt you are. No post should make you re-experience shame and guilt. For that I'm sorry.
I have to admit that when I read @jakedduck1's message 2 days ago, I had a different interpretation. I felt that he was trying to welcome you and to share his experiences of how hard it was for him to get off Klonopin. But I am not experiencing your challenges, nor do I share your triggers. I agree that sharing about the difficult situations others have experienced is not helpful for many people. Your reality is your reality; it is not diminished by comparison.
Lorraine, please believe me when I say I know your hurt is real. On this forum, we only have words to connect us. I'm confident that if we were all in one room and had the benefit of body language and tone of voice, Jake's message would have delivered and received differently. I'm confident that @jakedduck1 will respond here and apologize.
Like @parus, I encourage you to stick with the forum and continue to benefit from the support you have received as well as the support you offer others. Moments like these remind us that words matter and how fragile we all are.
@lorraine59 @jakedduck1 A couple of days ago I liked Jake's post. Each person has their own set of experiences. I truly do believe this in my heart and no one else can walk in the shoes of another person. While Jake's post felt accusatory and to Lorraine, there were a couple of points that I agreed with, there were also points that I disagreed with. After heading a discussion group yesterday, I experienced some of what Lorraine stated in her post. And once again I realize that each person colors their comments and their response to situations from their own personal experience. There's nothing we can do about that one person to another. I hope that each of you will stay here at connect group because it is important to all of us to hear all points of view, those that support and those that sting alike, because it helps us see our world. We all have something to learn from each other. Our hurts and our joys can be shared in this environment that allows others to learn and grow from them also.
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@lorraine59 You are NOT a drug addict just because you are addicted. Please do not feel ashamed or repelled from the connect community. There are those of us who “get it” and those with chips on their shoulders which says they are hurting and find it hard to not come across as critical to a weakness in another. We are here to support and encourage. I am sad this has happened. I have had it happen as well. I am still here and hope you will be too.