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Replies to "@colleenyoung that's a good article. I saw 5 spine surgeons prior to coming to Mayo who..."
@jenniferhunter @colleenyoung
Brava, Jennifer! I can sooo relate to your (frustrating, disconcerting) journey. Over the years, I decided that medical professionals are not gods and need to be regarded like any other professional -- that there are good and bad apples, political ones (climbing the department ladder), compassionate (but not necessarily knowledgeable) ones, diagnostically intuitive (and not necessarily congenial) ones, ones who are driven by hidden agendas (viewing patients as potential research subjects or guinea pigs for practicing a new surgical technique, and not as individuals), ones who are potentially burned-out and marking time, ones who are arrogant by nature, ones who may love but don't like women, ones who didn't sleep well the night before, on and on. If you're lucky (and luck has a lot to do with it), you will come across someone who meets at least some of your wants on a personal level, and needs on a professional level. The Law of Large Numbers tells us one must be tenacious in our pursuit of a resolution.
I think people may need to be careful with mentioning the internet... some doctors immediately become defensive and dismissive and focus on attacking "internet medicine," ignoring the implications of a study because many published studies are questionable, out-dated, not peer-reviewed, funded by sources with financial interests, etc. (Finding meta-analyses are more difficult for them to dismiss. Also, mentioning your source as being from a well-known institution (Mayo, Cleveland Clinic, UCSF Medical, Fred Hutchison Cancer Research Center, etc.) gets their attention; or noting that "you have come across a study" might sometimes works. Presumably, it could have been from another medical professional....)
Most patients are not going to have the talents or educations to engage directly with a doctor's interests. Keeping a sense of humor (even when in pain), however, is common ground for most people. (I'm told that, during a past surgery, my anesthesia had not fully kicked in when I had been placed on the narrow surgical table, and that I went into an entire comedy routine with the surgeon, the anesthesiologist, and OR nurses as to whether the table made my ass look too big, etc.) Post-surgery, the surgeon had a totally different demeanor with me. A good (self-deprecating) sense of humor bridges many personality gaps.
And lastly, there is a huge amount of medical information out there and it changes by the minute. Mere mortals (specialists) cannot be expected to keep up with it all. Professionals, in general, do not want to be perceived as lacking knowledge. Be a compassionate patient and appreciate that. If you've done your homework, you likely have a number of things in mind. Ask if the provider has considered such-and-such. The mention of something new to the discussion may ring a bell... make them personally curious to pursue it or a related angle... reorder their thinking... or not. At the conclusion of an unsatisfactory visit, one which does not appear to be going anywhere for you, do not hesitate to ask for that person's recommendation on what to do or who to see next. It may not help, but it can't hurt to have additional resources to add to your "next steps" list.
You have made some important points, @jenniferhunter. You are right about the medical profession being made up of scientifically minded individuals who relate well to facts, research and organized information and thinking.
As you have indicated, doctors are also people who want to be acknowledged for their feelings as well. The more you can connect with your doctor both on a scientific level and a personal level the better your relationship will be.
You have proven how important diligence is in your relationship with the medical staff. I so appreciate what you had to say!