I plan my work load so I can afford calorie wise to eat the pumpkin pie because it is good food, relatively speaking. I don't care for all the potatoes, gravy and stuffing because it is so heavy and makes me sleepy. So I skip that and eat more veggie foods. I make sure they are on the menu. I also skip the corn casserole my daughter makes because it is a big no no. Then I have the cheesecake instead of my evening glass of milk and the numbers are not bad the next morning because I worked hard getting ready for the dinner. And I enjoyed the whole thing. I don't really have negative thoughts because I am choosing well for me. Being very active helps everything. I think of my life as a success story rather than feel bad about myself. I am alive and my husband died. I am winning in life. Doris