@caj, You are not being a child to try to deal with your illness; rather, it sounds like you need a lot more self-care to address it than you are allowing yourself now. I think you and your husband together need to adjust the priorities that you have set for yourself, for your business, and expectations of one another to allow you to cope in a more healthy way. The *evidence* that this is harming you is there as a basis to have this conversation. Have none of the physicians you've seen given you advice on addressing the GI symptoms you are having, since you say you are not on any meds? If you can get your physical life under better control, with the needed change in your regimen to support that, then perhaps some of your anxiety will lessen, too. Extreme stress is very unhealthy.