@mattie Are you saying that you're moving to be closer to your daughter, or are you moving to get away from her? Are you certain that you have no choice? I hope that whatever decision you make will be healthy for you, as you are the person you have to answer to, and self-care and self-advocacy are vital for us who are seniors.

Jim

Thank you Mattie I was reluctant to chime in you encouraged me. As soon as I realized I had to make a choice because although I loved CA the smoke was and had continued to sicken me. I knew living near my daughters or grands would be as bad as staying put. Along time friend encouraged me to move to North Carolina and stay with her. Didn't realize it included 7cats and her 3 pkg of cigs a day.Even after I moved away I didn't feel right here. No matter where you are there are agencies to get some relief. Senior centers have people you can talk to about your situation. Someone I met told me about this complex with affordable apartments. Local bulletin boards online or at the grocery ads in the senior magazines. Wanted ads. It took awhile but I'm really sure that this is where I'm staying. If you speak up for yourself and can't get resolution take charge of yourself. Ask your therapist for resources contact old friends neighbors for info. You're driving great look for a group of like minded people in your new and/or old community. Move on doesn't necessarily mean physically.