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Depression and Anxiety at an older age
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My problem so far has been doctors using the connection of pain and depression. The depression has become worse with the chronic pain. Is all they see is an old and useless senior citizen that had a life prior to chronic pain. It is coming across to me that it is my fault I have both so forget getting any help. Future?? My struggle is just getting through another day and asked when I see a therapist again. I have worked hard in my life and have not always been like this this. I so abhor feeling lesser than and I realize it is my fault I allow the shallow views of others drag me to the pit time and again. Getting to the point where dragging myself back is destructive as well. Always the same reply.
Sorry as currently I have nothing helpful to bring to the table.
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@parus Just come to the table, you don't need to bring anything but yourself. We accept you no matter how poorly you met be feeling that day or the hour. Depression and pain certainly do go hand-in-hand. And it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel as being daylight and not an oncoming train. Perhaps if you try doing something that has brought you pleasure in the past, baking for your neighbors or drawing or writing or having your grandson over for a day. It sounds like his giggles & smiles have always been a positive balm for you. Don't let these so-called professionals get you down! You're so much stronger than that!
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to: @parus - I'm so sorry you are going through such hell. My sister, whom i lost a couple of years ago, suffered from chronic pain the better part of her life. Seeing a Shrink helped a bit but she finally had a nervous breakdown and wound up in hospital mental ward.
She came out and found her strength back - taught piano through a lot of illnesses and bless her courage, when she finally went blind in one eye from cancer, still taught one pupil. Her courage is something I will always remember. The reason I tell you this story is that you must fight back and not give in , either to the doctors who dismiss you with a kind of ageism, or your own private issues of aging and not being the same active, valid , hard working person you were. We all lose our sense of who we were once as we age and it's a challenge to find new things to relate to so we can keep going. Life is all about winning and losing . I hope you can find your own answers to the pain and depression you are living with. Fight back - don't let it defeat you.