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@merryone

Good morning. I'm very happy to meet everyone! I have been caregiving for my parents over the past 10 years or so. In the last 3 years it has become more intensive. My dad, 90, has fallen many times, finally breaking his arm in December, then again in March, and again in August. My mom, 80, had a mastectomy in February. She had been slowly suffering from dementia which sped up after the surgery. She also suffers from manic depression. I finally got both of them into an independent living facility in June. My mother suffered a complete mental breakdown forgetting who I am, accusing me of stealing their money, etc. I hadn't realized how much all of this dominated my life. I feel so much better reading your posts and seeing how common this is. I will be patient with myself as I learn how to live again. I hope this is a wonderful day for all of us. Mary

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Hi merryone! One of the hardest things for me to deal with was the first time I visited my mom and dad and my mother didn't know me. She thought my husband and I were total strangers. About a year before this happened we moved them 2 hours away from us so unfortunately, visits became fewer than normal. After being their caretakers for years...mom no longer knew me. I still had 1 1/2 years of visiting her and enjoying her company. Accepting her for who she was. May God be with you through your struggles. Start with baby steps...or jump right in getting to be "you" again. It is a very tough road but God is there to help. Blessings to you.