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Fractured L1 vertebrae has interrupted and changed my life
Spine Health | Last Active: Sep 13, 2018 | Replies (26)Comment receiving replies
I finally bought some MEMP lotion. I put it on my neck every time my pain starts up. I also crushed my Vertibra. I used a cane when I first came home from hospital. It was great and made me feel steady. But, I got tired of it. I can't keep my house up like I did. Now I tackle one mess at a time. I usually end up in bed for a nap after doing so little. My daughter hired a housekeeper for every two weeks. Thats great. she changes my sheets (I do the off week) cleans kitchen and bath and dusts etc. But, after she has come a few times and done well, I am finding some things that it is obvious she is not cleaning. Might half to let her go. It is easier than redoing her work. I am not being picky. When the corners of the tub are still dirty and the top of the toilet has not been wiped off, you know you have a problem. But, I am blessed.
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I agree with Lioness, talk with your housekeeper first. You don't have to be critical, instead think of your talk as information and feedback now that she's been working for you for awhile. Show her the areas where you have noticed things that were missed in her previous visit. You might also ask her to accompany you after she cleans next time so the 2 of you can review her work. That way, she will see for herself any areas she missed. The more specific the better. This can be a learning experience for her, and also for you if you're uncomfortable giving feedback. Don't forget to tell her where she's done excellent work as well as that will help her see that you aren't being primarily critical. It's hard to give feedback about negative things, but if you are factual and not personally critical, it helps. Last, most people know when they haven't done a good job, so if you are factual they have an easier time accepting it.
I'm speaking here from my many years of experience as a Human Resource professional. I had to give negative feedback about performance on a regular basis, as well as terminate the employment of people. I was so extremely uncomfortable about having to do this that I searched for the best ways I could give feedback and help people understand that perhaps they were in the wrong job and encourage them to find a good job for their skills. You don't want or need to do that with your housekeeper, but you can give feedback in an unhurtful way. Good luck, and please let me know how it goes with her if you decide to give her feedback.
SORRY TO HEAR YOUR NOT GETTING THE HELP YOU NEED ....I AM VERY GRATEFUL AND VERY BLESSED TO HAVE MY DAUGHTER COME COOK SOME MEALS AND HELPS ME DO THE THINGS I CANT DO .myself . IM ALSO GRATEFUL THAT I FINALLY HAVE A DOCTOR AFTER A YEAR AND HALF ...OF MY INJURY THAT IS COMPASSIONATE AND LISTENS TO MY NEEDS .
How wonderful. You are very fortunate.
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@oregongirl yes you are I also have a cleaner every 2weeks she is good I love Rosie dont no what Id do without her ,have you talked to her?maybe this would help you both?