doyoga - I had bi lateral mastectomies and I chose no reconstruction and have no regrets. My breasts at 55+ years old had turned on me in a couple of ways. First, they decided to get cancer and 'stuff' (ha ha) and second they were really unattractive and frankly uncomfortable. Of course, I was older, married many years, they were never much to look at anyway and I had truly started to hate bras. I was surprised that the easiest part of this process was deciding not to get any reconstruction, but it was. Everything else took a toll but only once since the surgery have I even mourned the loss of my breasts. Sure, I wish I never had cancer but I'm so glad I don't have to shop for bras or put one on to run out to get my mail or anything. I bought the prosthetic and have never actually put it on. I resemble a walking pear now but I'm learning all about layering, necklines and how to dress as a truly flat chested woman.
One question I have for you please -- I thought I'd do tattoos but I'm concerned about using any color that would show through lighter colored clothing. I do choose slightly thicker fabrics and darker colors but I wonder how that might work with say, a white t shirt? What are your thoughts? I'm still on the tattoo 'fence'. Hugs...........