Most in this discussion say that no one can understand the plight of a caregiver unless he has been there. That may well be true. But as one who has not (yet) been there, these stories do fill me with fear, almost a physical fear. I think it is actually possible to imagine the difficulty, sadness, and even rage at being in this situation. I, for one, can easily believe that people think of suicide. It must challenge even religious faith. While I have written this, I would also say-- there are no words.