rmftucker, Thank you for your reply. I have tried the passing of problems to one counselor. She read it to my husband when the three of us met. Not the sharpest knife in the drawer. That was our last visit with her. I have not been back to a psychologist since! Sounds like you have a good VA. I tried to get my husband to a psychiatrist in the VA. Our out of the system doctor and VA social worker were not successful! I do have a signed Hippa form, financial POA signed by my husband and Will in place. Our doc tiptoes around my husband as far as his diagnosis. I believe my best bet is his Mayo doctor and now have a plan to contact him prior to our next visit. I am afraid to put anything in writing after our experience with the last counselor, with good reason. No one understands what the caregiver is going through except the caregiver. I am a retired RN with many years of experience. It makes no difference Scott, Everyone is different. Boy, chicken, rice and veggies for breakfast and lunch sounds nasty. Add some chocolate m and m’s and things would have been much better!!

Thanks to both of you for your suggestions. Any other ideas, I am open to anything! My husband spends time on the computer and playing backgammon on his phone. He lost his phone recently and bought a new one. He did not have his information transferred from old phone and only has a few numbers on it... only one of our three kids. I suggested we take it to phone store to get his info out of the clouds. He only gets mad at me. He calls himself an “idiot” when he messes up... a word I would never use. Be well.