Janeejane, I think you are on to something with the Neuro Psych test. My husband was diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease with vascular dementia about three years ago. We have a good VA clinic locally and when I voiced some concerns about inappropriate decisions he had made, they suggested he be seen by a psychologist and helped set up the appointment. Before his appointment, I wrote down everything that I was concerned with and rather than trying to tell her in front of him, I just handed her the paper as we arrived and she was able to use my comments to help diagnose his problems. Since one of the things was his having a couple falls where he would black out for just a few minutes. She told him he shouldn't be driving as these might happen while he was driving, and he accepted it from her. Never tried to drive again. Really took a load off me as I had been dreading that for a while. I hope you will receive help and keep contacting us here at Connect. We are with you.

Hi! My husband has dementia-like symtoms from viral encephalitis. He began having driving issues before the encephalitis was diagnosed. He was always misplacing things, so I said his keys were lost. After diagnosis at Mayo, he was told not to drive, but didn’t remember it. His neurologist here suggested driving tests at a nearby hospital. He also failed the tests.
As to getting physical, he doubled up his fist once and I got mad at him and told him if he ever raised his hand to me again, I would call the police! That may not be something you can say to your husband, but you may want to let your local police know his diagnosis before you might need to call them. I would also tell his doctors about him being physical with you. In addition, I think you should see about guardianship. In our case, my husband did sign power of attorney, in case he needed my help explaining things to the doctors. Do what you can to keep yourself safe (if not sane all of the time, lol) and to be able to have his doctors talk to you. The list of concerns is a good way to inform any of his doctors!