So now I guess some of you are in the camp of "Thats"the worst story I've ever heard!" Or even more to the point, "How can she do that to her own child?"

And I would agree with you. It is terrible to have to say no when you want to say yes with every fiber of your being. But yes is not the answer when one is being manipulated. There's that element to contend wuth.

It is very difficult to have to .plan ahead, to give yourself time and space, in order to help your adult child meet their needs. Especially if there has been a lifetime of drug abuse and recovery. Over and over.

Especially when you are protecting a young child who simply needs to be a child. Free from adult issues. That young child has grown to be a young man. Right here, with us.

When someone is able to do some things for themselves, and you repeatedly manage that for them, trust me...trouble lies ahead.

Yes, she would do well perhaps in a group home. But there is that little matter of choice. She will not go. She is waiting on an apartment.

Reality in this world is not often pretty. There are good and bad times And lots of in between times. Times where you listen to all the doctors and therapists and lawyers and police officers...and then you make the best decisions that you can, with faith in someone higher than you.

Life is hard. No doubt about it. But life is good, too. I mostly concentrate on the good. But sometimes you have to be real.

Love and light,
Mamacita