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This is just a general statement here, throwing it out and just seeing where it lands. In the time that I have been here with this discussion on Adults On The Autism Spectrum, I have received many interesting comments about our discussions. I have pondered long and hard about the direction that this site needs to take. For every person out there who comments or likes a posting, there are perhaps hundreds who read it and don't say anything back.
Now, I am not simply pulling this out of my big ol' Gramma Jane purse to somehow impress you or make you think better of me or the group here. My self esteem does not depend on whether people like what I do or not. That's a perk of old age. I just don't care. I have too much on my plate to worry about whether someone has an accurate assessment of who I am or what I do.
Hurt people hurt people. If I have hurt any of you in any way whatsoever, I am deeply sorry. I myself have lived through enough hurt and anguish to cover at least ten lifetimes. People who know me really well have said that I should write a book about my experiences and how I survived. That will likely never happen, because the memories are best left in the past. Unless I can draw from those experiences to help someone. Which I do, frequently.
Back to the direction this group should take. Sometimes life is indeed rainbows and lollipops. Other times it is dirt on your face and mud on your boots. Sometimes it is an ocean, where there is no life boat, and you cannot swim. I like to think that this site is a safe, open, honest gathering of beautiful souls who share some common experiences. Adults who are wired a little differently. Or a whole lot different, in my case!
At any rate, I feel compelled to say that life is what you make it. You can't lie to people and pretend everything is ok when it's not. But we've all done it. We do it when people ask us how we are, out of concern, and we tell them " I'm fine". It is a fine line to walk, between sharing your own personal truth, and wanting to encourage, to give hope, and support.
I will end this conversation by saying this about that. Some days you're the bug. Some days you're the windshield. Oh, and keep your words sweet. You may have to eat them one day!
Good morning me lovelies, and have an Ausome day!
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@mamacita My writings are being slowly collected and collated into one place, that may result in a self-published tome. I haven't decided. But I do know the title is "My Side of the Street". Why? Because I can only keep my side of the street clean, and I only know my side of the street. Now, my experiences may be similar to someone else's, and my experiences and the lessons learned may be helpful to someone else, but I've only walked in my own shoes. So as you have said, I try to be gentle in my words but also it's very truthful and how I feel. It's being authentic to me. Like you, I am at the age where what people think of me just doesn't matter to me. There is a saying at the end of my personal emails that is a quote from Dr. Seuss. "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." I truly believe in that. Mamacita, you are one of a kind as we all are. But your wisdom and willingness to lead us and cheer us on is something that I really appreciate.
Ginger
My day is much better after reading your post, @mamacita. I'm sure I speak for others as well😂 Allow yourself to feel blessed today!
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Then some here must be hurting very much.