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We are trying to talk and move on. He thinks my dead husband is here telling him what an evil person I am so he can justify getting out? I don't know what he is trying to do. This is so deep. He now has a drawing of a bombshelter and trip wire. He blames his smothering on wanting to protect because I need to be alone and not by his side at all times. I mean from dropping off his daughter to school to cleaning out the car. If I am not there, I am cheating. I am not his ex wife or the first ex. I am beginning to wonder if they really did cheat or he just has this personality and manifest all of this. Like I said, this is deep. to deep for my brain. I don't have the patience to sort all of this out. This makes me feel selfish. ??
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No,dear heart, you are not being selfish at all. You need to concentrate on self care right now. I sense a bit of mistrust in yourself, when it is your bf who should be suspect.
Again, I am not trying to tell you what to do, or advise you in your future actions. My training in Pastoral Counseling does not extend to the type of help your bf needs. Many different things could cause his symptoms, which do appear to be rather eratic.
Please seek counsel of a trusted friend or family member. Someone you can trust. Have a plan for daily self care. You deserve to have peace and a safe life. No one has to tolerate disrespect or sbuse. Be safe, my friend. Please keep me posted.
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@mjsmimi Please reach out to someone in your area that you can trust. It sounds like your situation is escalating, and your safety may be at stake. Is there a reason you want to continue in this relationship? I know that is a tough question to ask, and even harder to consider answering. Would it be possible to go to joint counseling? Thank you for reaching out, and keep in touch.
Ginger