@shoregal45 I am sorry for your loss and you are spot on about this being no different from losing someone to death. A therapist told me that when I stopped drinking 12 years ago and smoking 9 yrs. ago that I would go through a grieving process over both, even though they both badly needed to be out of my life. Habits are also like close friends. I can't tell you how to ease the grief as we all grieve differently. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are the stages that science says we have to go through in the process and I would suspect that every one of us spends different amounts of time in each and the last two may envelope some of us for seemingly endless amounts of time. The best book I have read about dealing with grief is Plan B by Sheryl Sandberg. It details what she has experienced since her husband passed from a massive heart attack at age 45.