My Mom had rectal cancer 2 years ago. I am the care giver. We had a good discussion with the doctor before my Mom went on Laparascopic surgery. My Mom did not want the operations in the beginning but her doctor was so patient to explain and guide through detail procedures of the Laparascopic surgery. Besides, the doctor had introduced us with his other patients who had gone through the same procedure and have been treating the cancer. My Mom had finally negotiated the days to be shorten between the first Laparascopic surgery and second normal operation( to connect and remove the ostomy). My Mom was so pleased with the procedure for the 2 operations. She did not have to attach the bag after second operation. After one year, she did scan and found nothing. Doctors are so pleased with the outcome. It was a good experience for her. It is encouraging to go for Laparascopic surgery. The sooner the better.

Thank you for the welcome and thank you @soul and @travelgirl for sharing your experiences. I find the answers to my questions are often bigger than my questions. My impression has been that laparoscopic and robotic were independent approaches to surgery. Also, despite being described as a J-pouch by one of my surgeons, I will apparently be having my large intestine reattached to the remains of my rectum. I’m quite scared of quality of life following the reattachment from a bowel movement perspective regardless of a pouch or straight attachment. I’ve read papers suggesting both have problems and some that suggest the long-term experiences are comparable at more than two years out. Given the location of my cancer, radiation is typically indicated and I understand that can further degrade bowel movement experience. I have a chance to participate in a trial that is exploring whether radiation’s benefits outweigh the risks for my staging (where I could randomly be selected to not receive radiation). Anyway, sorry for the rambling and many, many thanks for the thoughtful responses!

I see I forgot to answer your question, Colleen. One surgeon believes that J-pouch will be necessary to minimize “stacking” & assist in control / frequency. Another, believes j-pouch comes with its own challenges that don’t warrant its use in my case, though he indicated he may form some type of pouch once surgery is underway and he sees what conditions may warrant. Both of these surgeons are very experienced and from top institutions. Consistently, both cited the complexity and challenge of operating in the tight space of the male pelvis. I really wish there was more consistency between the two, because I have immense confidence in and respect for both.

I'm not sure how one can make that call. Is getting a third opinion an option?