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Loss and Grief: How are you doing?
Loss & Grief | Last Active: Apr 7, 2024 | Replies (932)Comment receiving replies
My husband of 65 years died Feb 8. He had been in a care center for almost 3 years and because it was 45 miles from home, I would go every other day to visit. Then this stopped!!! I did pretty well except for the days when I normally would have spend the afternoon with him. Just couldn't seem to find anything to attract my attention. I was able to be with friends for lunch and church and other activities soI did pretty well until this past couple weeks. I an so lonely now. Everything in the house reminds me of him and I find myself crying over the simplest thing. Even as I am writing this. I know "this too shall pass" and two of my children live close. I don't see them often but we talk. Friends have contacted me by phone or email and that helps, but it isn't the same, and know it never will be, but still. . . We will get through this.
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Hello @rmftucker,
You are doing well to acknowledge your feelings of grief and aloneness! Expressing these feelings can help you as you adjust to your life without your beloved husband. I'm glad that you are surrounded by a group of supportive people from your family and friends, this is important.
Yes, you will get through this. Keep feeling, keep writing. While this sense of loss will never leave you, it will lessen with time. My mom passed away on Thanksgiving Day and I've attended a grief support group where I've learned to let the feelings of grief flow through me - rather like a breeze through a window or flour through a sieve. It doesn't stay forever but just flows through my current thoughts. As you consider your grief, try to think of it this way and see if it helps.