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Loss and Grief: How are you doing?
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I appreciate the suggestions of going to the cemetery and talking to my mom about some of my feelings that might be coming out in dreams. I'm not able to do this, since she donated her entire body as an anatomical bequest to the U of M medical school, as did her mother before her. We are not having her ashes returned to us, instead they will be held in a joint colombarium or something when the school is finished with them.
I have been trying to talk to her out loud a bit lately to just try to recognize her ongoing presence in my life, which is very hard for me to feel. I'm a deeply spiritual, empathetic person, a Presbyterian minister, and I've been surprised that she feels so far away from me. No signs, no meaningful dreams, no "presence." Just absence. It's incredibly painful.
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@trider7140 If you have something of your mother's, or some physical thing that reminds you of her, you could use that for your meditation focus to call up the good memories of your mother and the love you shared. Aloud or not and what you use is irrelevant, the end result is the aim, right? I assume your mother lead you to your spiritual life and ministry, so perhaps your bible or one of your spiritual books may be something you shared that can help your focus. For me the first are always the worst after a loss. The first time anything happens that you would have shared with your mother may be a huge trigger. It gets easier for me as time passes, but that first event was tough each time. You have the best resources at hand, which puts you far ahead of many. God Bless.