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@grandmar Your post brings tears to my eyes. I am so sorry for the feelings you have about not being there enough when she was sick.
I have a few regrets about both of my parents too, I think they would have resolved if they had lived longer. I will always feel guilty about certain things with my mother though, that I didn't do and that was simply being a self-centered young person. As I said in a prior post, I was only 27 when she passed, 15 when my father did.
Our son and daughter are so good, but they are in their 30s. They will have no reason to ever feel guilty at how they treated us, whereas had either of us passed when they younger they may have. Maturity does a lot for people.
JK
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@contentandwell My Dad died when I was 6 A couple things I remember but not A lot Mom held down 2jobs before she remarried .I remember when was upset when my older brother went of to the Navy this was before she remarried I didn't get along with my step dad so I would go out to the cemetery and talk to his grave being out there somehow was comforting.I don't know if this would help,@ trider7140 but it might get the anger out
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Hi JK!
Age might have something to do with, but I'm not sure. I was a little older than you when I lost my mom.
I think part of it might be that if I did help or be with her during her recoup time, I'd have to face the reality that my mom was sick and that she was at the point that she needed me, her youngest, to take care of her. She wouldn't allow it! As a matter of fact, when she was recouping, she WOULDN'T ALLOW us to visit and she wouldn't tale to us on the phone until he voice got stronger. She was a proud woman!
My kids are great, too! Both are in the medical field. My son is a nuclear med technician. He took lots of science in college thinking he would become a doctor. My daughter is a social worker. Her career has been split between working with hospice patients and their families and now, with patients on dialysis. She has gotten to know the insurance route pretty well.
They decided that if we lose our minds (as if we haven't already, lol), my daughter will take us. If we are physically ill, my son will take us. Of course, we wouldn't want either one to take us, we rather be in a facility.
Let's hope we won't have to worry about who will do what and how they will react for a long time (I'm 64, my hubby is 68).
TaTa.....
Ronnie (GRANDMAr)