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@reibur1951

Thank you - its been a rough 2+ years - already lost his dad on June 28th and his mother on Dec 26th - she was in nursing home since Dec 3 2014 with right side stroke - a myriad of other problems left or right cartriod artery completely blocked with the one in the back of neck she had one Carotid artery surgery which ever side to save her right side as she was right handed, she was having seizures which the dr she had & Hospital ER was not diagnosing till to late - then badgered her into the surgery - the last she went in with a mild seizure & Acute Myocardial infraction with STEMI near 100 percent blockage, sepsis, c-diff, Stage 3 Acute onset Kidney disease her the heart dr on call and her regular hear dr said heart catheterization would either do more damage than good or he would die during it - plus she had DNR and directive for not advance life support to maintain life - recommendation was "comfort care" she never was fully alert or conscious the whole 8 days (I sat with her 24/7 those 8 days except maybe 3 hours) - for one brief period in ER she did tell the daughter she loved her. His father was diagnosed the not making enough red-blood cells .also tested JAK2 V617 positive - was not to have been cancer - had blood transfusion every 2 weeks - was on arasnep for 8 months but had 90-95 % of the side effects. so when medicare refused to pay for it found out fully he done a almost 100% turn around he had a --- for a doctor - talked in analogies - would not talk side effects of medications - the small good outweighed all the side effects...

He is getting the best of care at IU Medical/Simon Cancer center - and what ever happens I know its God's will and I have survived and will I know I have done my best and am doing my best I have genealogy I do and I have a wesbsite on the history of the town i lived in and will go back to http://www.maxinkuckee.history.pasttracker.com/ I am trying to restore my 100+ year old home there which as been put on hold since 2017 ( http://www.maxinkuckee.history.pasttracker.com/lots_419_s_main/419_s_main.htm ) - but I will some how succeed at that -

Over the years I have lost loved ones - I know we are given only a limited time on earth - and when its our time God will take us Maybe this sounds insensitive but I have always believe our time on this earth was limited to God's will and that he will provide and take care of us.

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@reibur1951
You've been a remarkable friend to many. I hope that easier days are ahead for you.

Hello @reibur1951

Just wanted to check in and say hello. I hope you are doing well. Post again when you have some time.