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Loss and Grief: How are you doing?
Loss & Grief | Last Active: Apr 7 12:18pm | Replies (932)Comment receiving replies
Hello @tmmmrlts While I am sad to read of your losses, your post rang many bells with me! I lost my wife after her 14 year war with brain cancer. I, too, grow weary of folks, perhaps well meaning, who feel no compunction telling me how I should be grieving. Likewise those who shower me with meandering, often misquoted verse, which do nothing more than make themselves feel better. My personal worst reaction is when someone tells me 'well, she fought a good fight.' Her fight was horrific, not good and no matter what I still miss her more than I can stand some days.
Loss, as death, is unique to each individual! I think the worst of it is folks who have experienced no loss, but have read somewhere of the artificial 'stages of grief' and tell me where I should be grieving at this point in time.
My wife and I were married for 41 years so I have taken to responding to anyone who tells me how I should be handling my grief "Thanks, when she's been gone for 41 years and 1 day, you can offer your advice on how I should be grieving."
I hope you stay strong and have a solid, strong day!
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Thank you and you stay strong. They just dont understand it's not something you can just turn off you just learn to live with it.
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I lost my daughter to a car accident. She was going to be a pharmacist. She had about a year and a half left. And the guy she and her boyfriend were riding with decided to do a u-turn and a diesel hit them. Killing my daughter and the driver. She was the happiest person it didnt matter to her if you was rich or poor. She always treated everyone the same. There are songs or anything that reminds me of her and tears come and smiles come. But the love I have for her and the pain of losing her never stops.
People are afraid to talk about her, but I love it because it reminds me of how sweet she was.