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@reibur1951

Hi - all I have lost the last post - but since then its been hell friend (Paul) with lung cancer had his CT on the 13th remains stable - had his immunology etc on the 17th and Dr is pleased with everything... came home crashed on the 18th - had not gone to bed as yet when received a call from Russ daughter at 1-1:30 a.m. on the 19th who usurped the care for her mother in nursing home and would not tell me anything - that the nursing home was sending her mother to ER in Plymouth think she had a partial seizure by what was told - ER diagnosis was
Acute Myocardial infraction with STEMI (100% blockage) prognosis no catherization because of all health conditions
Sepsis
c-diff + (she came into ER with diarrhea)
Stage 3B Acute Chronic Onset Kidney Disease

she was kept in ER till a little after 6 then put on floor 4 p.m. transferred her to Hospice care in South Bend and she was there till 4 p.m. Sat the 22nd when transferred back to nursing home and I was able to come home about 4 hours on Sunday 23rd - and yesterday 26th she died at 6;24 a.m. I went in about 5 p.m. last night made arrangements for cremation, a private family viewing which is at 5:30 tonight

I have basically been running on no sleep, no food, and so-called daughter who cared so much that she wanted total control over her mothers care only and told the nursing home I was to know nothing showed up for 2 hours for 2 days, and maybe a little longer on Sat & Sunday - she may of showed up christmas eve not sure showed up about an hour just to bring the son who is in half way house to see his mom before he went back

I told her to go on have christmas i was staying there with Mariea as she would be alone and i did not want her to be alone - she has been in nursing home since Dec 3, 2004 at 7 p.m. and Russ and I were the constant visitors (every Wednesday, Sunday, the thanksgiving dinners they had, he birthday, anniversary, christmas until he took sick and was diagnosis of not making red blood cells he just did not have the energy - he tried making it into the front lobby from car parked illegally in the canopy drop off/pickup area

Yeah I am a wreck - i have cried - i am trying not to be bitter angry but its hard when I was there 24/7, just cat-naps - no food basically all those days - did have some but it was not the normal 2 or 3 meals a day - I am not a breakfast person....

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So sorry u and family will be in my prayers

@reibur1951 Im so sorry for your lose and everything else Take one thing at a time first rest you need this to process things also. God bless you take care of yourself.

@reibur1951

I am sorry to hear that you are dealing with yet another loss. This has certainly been a difficult year for you. Unfortunately, family members can make these times difficult.

I am glad to hear that your friend's son is responding well to his cancer treatment. That must be an encouragement to you.

I wish you a good New Year with some better experiences.