Has it been this long... Update...

Went for the CT-Scan on the 1st - it was a miserable day of driving rained all the way to Indy and back was within 30-40 miles when it was down to only a barely visible drizzle...

The 5th was the drs/immunology and he is doing excellent with it there is no adverse effects side effects etc. with it - . with his actual dr. and not a replacement as last time (but all are within the clinical study he is on) The axillary and supraclavicular lymph nodes and tumor has remained stable the term used was "grossly stable" and no new lymphadenopathy tho some ground-glass nodules have appeared and some more this time they are carefully watching these there was mild emphysematous changes the next Ct-scan sometime in Dec. - but we has a heavy smoke up till April 2007

The trip down uneventful but but was late in infusion lab tho there before 12:30/1 p.m. The medication did not come till 3 got out at of building on road at 4 and stopped for some sandwiches it was getting dark and darker as we came north - very heavy traffic in Indy and went down to heavy moderate traffic which did not cease until hit Logansport 30 miles from home - its a 200 miles round trip each time...

One day week of Oct. 22 I was woke up around 9 a.m. by friends step-sister 1st time she has called in 6+ weeks. Started out by asking about her half-brother and then demanded to know the prognosis and what amount of time they had given him... I said many factors would determine that - so far the chemo/immunology is doing their job, it has not grown, its shrunk some, he has had no adverse effects to chemo/immunology and there is no new growths... I thought WTF...

Then she started in on her dad about what was going down - I told here the new grave-sites were re-purchased elsewhere & footing paid for (long story) the grave-sites were not paid for - only in his name and trustee claimed even if finished paid for we could not put a monument there for cremains - then got her to agree we could put it on top of his parents monument - but she had the right to move it without permission if she deemed it detrimental to the cemetery & care of and also had to sign off on the partially paid for graves with no re-payment of what was paid on them & had to sign off on the 2 empty graves where his parents were buried (again no re-reimbursement) so they could re-sell them for a profit and would have the monument hopefully paid for in a few weeks... then she started in on how I was going to pay for it... This was added expense and took away from the cremation house money.

Then she started in on the properties that I was awarded adverse possession on and she knew was filed and none of the kids fought - of course their dad told them if they did not like the way he done they could kiss his ass and if not high enough... All I said that it was up to me and my friend with lung cancer her half-brother and she informed me it was not and kept arguing over the graves and property and I just hung up on her... The daughter who is get the 5A for her house called and said she talked to her-half sister and was informed by half-sister "the properties were still in the grandmothers name, she proceeded to ask if I would stay and take care of her half-brother since "he did not have anything to offer me"... then she informed she was upset because she is not get the entire 69.9A she was only promised over the years 5A for her house and no more... Again i thought WTF... and yes I attempted not to cry but did all day off and on and even pulled out the whiskey and coke before I went to bed...

The adverse possession in my name was done to take care of her dad as he did not want to go into a nursing home and neither does her half-brother; plus he wanted me taken care of since do there would be no meddling from them and me having to "beg" for money for care of their father. All work and have left everything up to me - his care - taking to drs. etc. etc. same with the brother... Oh well their father was not as dumb as they thought he was... he knew he wanted son and I taken care of not left out int the cold Will at least have the cash rent for the farm ground but if like in past due in March/November. November was given when father died so could have for cremation etc.... So that done that in...

I have been here for 24+ years and taken care of her mother (who is in nursing home since Dec. 3rd, 2004), helped take care of her grandmother, done for her and her kids etc. The brother lived with and took care of his grandmother and helped pay off the mortgage that she took out on the bare farm ground her place & the 40A it was a 15 year mortgage and there was 12 years left still owed after she died. Both the sisters work so you know where what he out come would of be nursing home... The never offered to help money wise in any way with the mortgage or property taxes...

Cost over $2000 to get this done and their father did have me call the lawyer and went with me and it was not done behind his back i was done with his blessing... I have one option of turning everything over back to his name and over to the state and everything will be lost...

The 1st property interested in was sold (it was the brick); the 2nd in line the wind power has been sold also drove down by since could not see a real estate sign from main road - it sits barely off on a country road I wish i had the furniture they were throwing into the dumpster out of it,,, in the real estate ads it looked in excellent condition and thing wrong with it... the one remains ..

The buyer called the 29th or 30th said the title insurance company would not issue a policy because the way i acquired until a year more is up... said something afraid of lawsuits..... So I am still sitting on the earnest money not sure if it has to be returned or not... at least it did draw $2,82 cents worth of interest 🙂

Have to come up with rest of property taxes; and got bill the 2nd for filing the order of default judgement 3 months later and I had asked in August if I owed anymore money or would owe more money... So I am awaiting the buyers call to go talk to the lawyer so he can explain more I mentioned if land contract can be done till year is up so the buyer does not loose the money of the appraisal fees ($500) and I know there are lawyer fees and i am not sure what else he has assumed in expenses...

And yes I attempted not to cry all day but put my efforts into trying to figure how to re-stack and store all the boxes packed no i am not emptying out for now can live without the stuff I have boxed up....

So now I am re-grouping, re-organizing and trying to figure out how to salvage this 1975 mobile home to make it more live-able for the time being.... Hoping the van will last if not will be walking basically have an old 4-wheel drive truck but barely trust it around here it needs a lot of work and is un-comfortable to drive and maneuver.

The daughter & her husband who is to get the 5A have not been told as yet that they can not get it for at least another year so I still have that yet to face... They are only around when they want something 🙁 Make promise and I have to ask, beg, plead to have anything done by him, the daughter well forget it; she did bring us a turkey couple of weeks ago because she had to clean her freezer out for new food as her hours of work was being cut and she wanted to start laying in a winters supply....

I can't even lay in a supply as transportation to I.U. & bills come first then food. I am selling some stuff on eBay glassware trinkets but it nothing of great value just can not give away to a local thrift store... to late for garage sales and they have never been productive for me...

I will survive... I won't give up... God will provide... and Krama will strike the others... And yes I am remaining around to care for the son no matter what and hanging till the bitter end unless my health gives up or i die.... They would only get control slap him into a half-way house or nursing home and make off with everything... Their work their lives are more important... they have proven that with their dad let alone their brother....

Hi - all I have lost the last post - but since then its been hell friend (Paul) with lung cancer had his CT on the 13th remains stable - had his immunology etc on the 17th and Dr is pleased with everything... came home crashed on the 18th - had not gone to bed as yet when received a call from Russ daughter at 1-1:30 a.m. on the 19th who usurped the care for her mother in nursing home and would not tell me anything - that the nursing home was sending her mother to ER in Plymouth think she had a partial seizure by what was told - ER diagnosis was
Acute Myocardial infraction with STEMI (100% blockage) prognosis no catherization because of all health conditions
Sepsis
c-diff + (she came into ER with diarrhea)
Stage 3B Acute Chronic Onset Kidney Disease

she was kept in ER till a little after 6 then put on floor 4 p.m. transferred her to Hospice care in South Bend and she was there till 4 p.m. Sat the 22nd when transferred back to nursing home and I was able to come home about 4 hours on Sunday 23rd - and yesterday 26th she died at 6;24 a.m. I went in about 5 p.m. last night made arrangements for cremation, a private family viewing which is at 5:30 tonight

I have basically been running on no sleep, no food, and so-called daughter who cared so much that she wanted total control over her mothers care only and told the nursing home I was to know nothing showed up for 2 hours for 2 days, and maybe a little longer on Sat & Sunday - she may of showed up christmas eve not sure showed up about an hour just to bring the son who is in half way house to see his mom before he went back

I told her to go on have christmas i was staying there with Mariea as she would be alone and i did not want her to be alone - she has been in nursing home since Dec 3, 2004 at 7 p.m. and Russ and I were the constant visitors (every Wednesday, Sunday, the thanksgiving dinners they had, he birthday, anniversary, christmas until he took sick and was diagnosis of not making red blood cells he just did not have the energy - he tried making it into the front lobby from car parked illegally in the canopy drop off/pickup area

Yeah I am a wreck - i have cried - i am trying not to be bitter angry but its hard when I was there 24/7, just cat-naps - no food basically all those days - did have some but it was not the normal 2 or 3 meals a day - I am not a breakfast person....