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Hello @reibur1951
So good to hear from you. It does sound like you are making progress, albeit slow. I'm glad to hear that other properties are becoming available that might work for you. That is good news! How is your friend's son doing with his cancer treatment?

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He has done amazingly well he is in a clinical study - from Dec - Apr it was a 12 week thing of going down every week - and his dad went with us... sure mess that 🙁 ... It was a 4-3 week cycle Week 1 was Carbiolatin/Abraxane/Pembrolizumab; week 2 &3 was abraxane only amazingly he had no nausea, vomiting or diarrhea - some hair loss (its all grown back in now and thicker it seems) he had some neuropathy, to the feet up to about the heels low ankles and seems to be coming out of that more and more seemed to bother him - he is on the Pembrolizumab (immunology) right now and its every 3 weeks I think up to 2 years not sure... He done the genetic bio-maker thing at the end of the 12 week cycle so that if anything develops or better treatment options comes up he is on the "band wagon" and ready to go. Like said the last CT 6 weeks ago showed the lymph node had somewhat increased in size but not to where it was; the other lymph nodes involved had remained stable; the main tumor in lung had shrunk from the treatment and had not showed any change thus far only concern seems that the area behind the tumor had collapsed so we will see what this CT-scan brings on Thursday... his immunology is next Wednesday.. I need to find an undivided amount of time to sit down and put all reports in a line and read them and compare them. From the horror stories i have heard of others on chemo he done amazingly well he never got a cold, flue etc. during the treatment and his immune level had only dropped twice during that time where the treatment had to be delayed for a week. This was the only option open since surgery and radiation were out from the beginning Like said its termed Stage IVB squamous cell carcinoma of the upper right lung with several lump nodes involved the 2 main is a right supraclavicular and the the left axillary (arm pit) It all in Gods hands He complains very little of anything and denies having any pain or breathing problems he rides his bike to a local country store every late afternoon early evening just about every day in all types of weather which is about 12 miles - out of curiosity I will have to clock it one day to see just how far....

Of the houses I prefer the wind generated one it came on market 2nd.; its the nearest to were I am at the brick one was the first and its okay (its hte furthest away) and the 3rd it is cheaper and in the middle and will suffice and at least its has an acre of buffer but I am sure its in the annexed portion of the town for development into housing/retail I will have to go look at a zoning map to see just what the developer done to sub-divide it off of the parcels he bought but for now it "country"....

I am hanging in and bouncing with what life throws at me knowing God does not give us anymore than we can handle and tolerate at any given time.

Just Brief update - The agreement was signed on the 26th for the sale of the 40A; the earnest money is in savings account not touching it as if it fails to go through may have to return it... all three houses are still up on the market but the one is up for being subdivided and creating a new subdivision :-(; seen an account and the tax men will get at least 17% so will have to put that back; looked under the van and it will not last much longer 🙁 the welded axle has cracked through again or a new cracked has appeared I am trying not to be bitter over this but have very hard feeling for the person taking advantage of an 84 year old man who was sick and me - needless to say we have not seen hide nor hair of him since last June just as well as i just might find a wire clothes line and string him up by his... So priorities may have to change to safer vehicle first and may have to "rough it out" this winter here in "box heaven" but have not given up complete hope of having a better place yet for this winter. Been scrubbing down what little furniture have mainly storage pieces gun cabinet, dressers etc. considered collectibles or even antiques using re-finisher and goign a-la-natural wood with tung oil.
Colder weather has hit and have bought wood (and I now own 30+A of woods but have to "ask" for it to be cut I feel dau. & son-in-law have lived over there for free without helping with taxes should be able to do with out me asking/begging. The son always cut out wood for us last winter had to buy and dau. did not like person i was getting from found her own source and I think we did not get quantity & quality for the same price her dad said some had cersote or something on it I know I could smell also like had been treated or maybe sprayed with weed bug killer so was not happy - between price of wood and electric Getting use to lower temp's trying not to burn furnace unless necessary but it is a mobile home a "tin box" (aluminum) seems to get cold and stay that way and with all the air leaks... but I will survive as having a safer vehicle comes first - as i do no know what will happen when/if axle gives way and I am not in for killing myself or anyone else and i will have one that is new certified warranty and some service maintenance on it as well as safety features such as onstar - thinking dual purpose a truck since one have is only fair and i can do my own hauling/moving etc with it and some help.

Everything hinges on the title search and closing feeling scared at times even tho its only been 3 weeks on Tuesday just feeling impatient over it all.

Friends son due for another dr/immunology on Tuesday. The Last Ct-scan report seems to brings some new issues up the tumor in upper right ling has shrank - but there is emphysema in the area ; a new 5mm right upper lobe subpleural nodule and some small ill-defined left upper nodules nor seen before; the supraclavicalar lymph node appeared similar but earlier to day it seemed to be enlarged to me so there maybe changes there - thoracic spine degenerative changes were noted no vertebral compression fracture...his regular dr. was out so will see what he has to say on the previous scans another scan due Nov. 1st followed on the 5th for dr/immunology

Been a little down this weekend as birthday was Saturday there was no celebration etc. At times my mind over thought and i started to tear up But I am alive and surviving and I know God will provide in his own way and time.